What is Date Coaching? (For Men)
The good thing about being a man in today’s dating world is that you are less off track than the woman are. With less of an echo chamber of social media dispensing terrible, terrible advice, the disruption and damage done to men in the dating world has been solely through your encounters with women. Not from an adamant tribe of fellow men.
That being said, that damage is no joke! Not getting a single match is disheartening. But being scolded, disrespected, and outright insulted by women who initially seemed to be normal/civil can really spin your sense of the world.
I had been working with at-risk and delinquent youth for about a decade when I realized that I can’t teach a boy how to be a man. It wasn’t something that I was trying to do, it’s just that I saw that while I could motivate them to try new things, I present alternative ways of looking at things, and bridge the gaps of understanding between them and their parents... I could not teach them how to be men, or how to feel good about themselves as men. So I began looking for male mentors for my students. This played a big part of expanding my services from private tutoring, into a holistic, wrap-around education consulting program. Sometimes I would just pop the student into my car and bring them over to a friend who worked in the same industry the student was interested in. And let the men talk.
My goal as a date coach is not to tell you how to be a man. That I cannot do. But as a woman, I can:
help UNDO the hammering away of your beliefs and principles that other women may have unconsciously inflicted.
explain the female thought process and primitive reactions - where the modern woman is coming from and what her motivators are
help you understand exactly where and what kind of woman you should be looking for as your ideal match.
The goals of date coaching are as follows:
1) Realign and reset views towards women and dating/romantic relationships
2) Explore dating/romantic history and reassess past experiences; resolve the causes and effects of previous challenges.
3) Establish specific habits that will improve your ability to meet, get to know, and date eligible women in real life.
4) Discernment - how to tell good character from bad in women without getting emotionally injured or entangled first.
5) Dialing down: How to tell when you are genuinely attracted, and when a woman is attracted in return.
Later sessions of date coaching, if service is renewed (or client begins at this stage) cover:
1) Taking casual acquaintances/friends to the next level, getting on that first date.
2) Communication traps and how to avoid/navigate them in the early stages.
3) Date planning without stress, keeping it organic and fun.
4) Dating with honor: what are your obligations? What do you want: physically, emotionally, and more?
5) Planning for the future – what is a healthy timeline, depending on both of your unique personalities and situations?
The goal of date coaching is not to completely shield you from the potentially painful experience of rejection.
The goal of date coaching is to get you as healthy and informed as possible so that:
You are radiating your appeal without any cloud of confusion or insecurity.
Discernment is optimal and moves are made in confidence.
Setbacks are taken in stride.
Ultimately, you will feel/see that you are making visible and sustainable progress along your journey to finding and claiming your future wife.
My date coaching packages consist of 5 hour-long sessions that can be scheduled every week up to once a month. Reach out today to schedule a discovery call, or jump right into my singles database for the low fee of $100! This covers the hour-long intake interview and the creation of your profile. Email GoodHeartsMeet@Gmail.com to schedule today!
