The Call to Support Christian Couples
The foundation of a Christian church is the Christian family.
How are we to build our church body, if we are not creating families? How do we become a community that represents diverse age groups and demographics? How do we grow and bear fruit?
For many Christian singles, this is a dilemma. Say there are no singles at your home church, and no one in the church community is introducing you to eligible Christian singles. Is the only answer to leave your church, and roam others in search of your mate? Or are you called to plod along alone, praying that God will send the right person to appear in front of you? (An event that, at times, feels like it would be a miracle?)
Let’s consider it one of the responsibilities of the church community to help its members meet and marry other Christians. Married folks tend to get wrapped up in our families, quickly forgetting how hard it was to “do life” without a partner. We get busy and caught up in our own lives, in enjoying the responsibilities and blessings that God has given us. At the end of the day, we tumble into our beds in homes full of comfort, chaos, and laughter. It’s easy to forget the nights we looked up at the ceiling and cried, “Lord, please send me someone. I feel so alone.”
When someone is looking for a good dentist or contractor, they’re not looking to try out every listing on Yelp, hoping to find a winner. They want someone who’s been vetted, someone tried and true. You can be that reference for your single community members. Your experience, your knowledge of that person, is a testimony to their character. It goes a long way towards opening the door to possibilities. Sometimes a reference is all a person needs to let down their guard and give something an honest, open try. Especially in a world of singles who are scarred by online dating!
I’m talking about a good old-fashioned introduction. If you need something that feels more modern, how about showing a friend’s social media page and asking, “What do you think of my single friend?” Just make sure the photos are flattering!
Churches can help their single population by hosting events that attract Christians from outside of the church. Work together with neighboring non-profits or churches to organize joint events. Hold events specifically for singles or those wishing to support singles.
The more involved you are with your church, the less time you may have to meet someone if your church doesn’t have a single population.
We get busy and caught up in our own lives, in enjoying the responsibilities and blessings that God has given us. At the end of the day, we tumble into our beds in homes full of comfort, chaos, and laughter. It’s easy to forget the nights we looked up at the ceiling and cried, “Lord, please send me someone. I feel so alone.”
What are we doing to help our brothers and sisters in Christ find the partners that God has chosen for them? So they can meet, fall in love, date, marry, have children, and raise them in the Church?
Couple laughing together against a background of nature and wooden tracks.
